Gottman Therapy Brisbane
Affair/Betrayal Recovery Counselling
Building trust after a devastating affair or betrayal
Marriage Counselling Brisbane Southside
Working through an affair will test the strongest of relationships, it's tough without a doubt. Betrayals will push many relationships to crisis point too. At the core of affairs and betrayals that damages relationships, is trust.
Trust is broken and rebuilding this, learning new ways of communicating especially in conflict, and focusing on how to increase emotional connection and eventually, physical and sexual connection takes time. Like grief, your emotions will come in waves going between anger and despair, sadness and numbness.
In order to find out if your relationship should be saved, it's important, to be honest with yourselves and answer some questions to help decide if you should continue the relationship.
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Are you interested in making amends? Or are you willing to leave your partner?
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Will you be able to let go of your anger and resentment towards your partner and move forward?
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Can you imagine being happy with your partner despite what they did?
How do you know if your partner would cheat again can be a valid concern when an affair has happened. Some warning signs to look out for are if your partner:
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Does not view cheating as wrong, immoral, or unethical
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Has a casual, dismissive perspective on the cheating
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Does not take responsibility for what happened
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Has a long history of lies and deception
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Cannot communicate openly and is very secretive
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Refuses or cannot empathize with the pain and distrust caused by cheating
If both you and your partner are committed to reconciling then seeing a couples therapist trained in affair and betrayal recovery is helpful. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have developed the Trust Revival Method, with three defined stages of treatment:
Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment
86% of couples who attend therapy for affair recovery and are committed to making the relationship work are successful. You can learn more about Gottman Therapy Brisbane here.
To learn more about how I can help you, please book an initial session.
What Clients Are Saying
"Thank you for making a difficult situation easier to process.
We feel really comfortable with you"
Married 30 Years, Multiple Emotional Affairs