Counselling After An Affair

Rebuilding trust once betrayed

Affair Recovery

Working through the aftermath of an affair or betrayal is one of the most painful and confronting challenges a couple can face. Even the strongest relationships can feel like they’ve been shaken to the core. Betrayals - whether emotional, physical, or a profound breach of trust - can push partners into a space of crisis, uncertainty, and emotional turmoil. And yet, for many couples, this crisis becomes a turning point. A painful one, yes - but also one where the question emerges: Can we rebuild?

At the heart of this work is trust - its loss, its slow rebuilding and the fragile hope that it might be possible to reconnect in a new and more authentic way. Healing after an affair isn't about rushing to forgive and forget. It’s about facing the pain and beginning the long, courageous process of rebuilding emotional safety. It involves learning new ways to communicate, especially when conversations are charged or conflict arises. It also means finding a way back to emotional closeness - and eventually, for many, to physical and sexual intimacy.

Recovery doesn’t follow a straight line. Just like grief, the emotions come in unpredictable waves: anger, sadness, numbness, despair - sometimes all in a single day. This is normal and although it’s hard, it’s also a sign that you’re processing something deeply significant.

Couples counselling can offer a space to sort through this pain with structure, support, and care. And as difficult as it is, part of the process involves asking the tough questions - questions that help you understand if you want to repair the relationship and if you can.

Are you open to making amends - or ready to walk away?
Can you imagine letting go of resentment and finding a way forward?
Is there a version of the future where happiness together feels possible again, even after what happened?

These questions don’t come with easy answers. But in therapy, you don’t have to face them alone. Whether you’re hoping to rebuild or simply need clarity, counselling can help you begin that process - with honesty, compassion, and the guidance to navigate what comes next.

Trust Issues

“How can I ever trust them again?”

After an affair, this question can haunt even the most determined couples. Wondering whether your partner might cheat again is not only understandable - it's a valid and important concern. When trust has been broken, your sense of emotional safety may feel shattered and your instincts are likely on high alert. You may find yourself scanning for signs, unsure of what to believe or how to feel secure again.

Some warning signs that might raise further concerns include when a partner:

Dismisses or downplays the seriousness of cheating, seeing it as not really wrong, immoral, or unethical
Shows a casual or indifferent attitude about the betrayal
Avoids taking genuine responsibility or continues to shift blame
Has a long-standing pattern of lying or deception
Keeps secrets and resists open communication
Struggles - or refuses - to empathise with the hurt and distrust their actions have caused

These behaviours can point to deeper relational issues that need to be addressed, especially if reconciliation is being considered. Trust can't be rebuilt if these patterns remain unacknowledged or unchanged.

But there is a path forward for couples who are both willing to do the work. When both partners are genuinely committed to understanding what happened, repairing the damage, and rebuilding the relationship, working with a couples therapist trained in affair and betrayal recovery can make a profound difference.

How I Work

Gottman Therapy Brisbane

A calm, non-judgemental space where both partners will feel heard and respected, no matter how painful or complex things feel.

A structured and proven approach using the Gottman Trust Revival Method to guide you from crisis toward emotional repair.

A healing process that honours the hurt while gently opening the door to reconnection.

Practical tools to help you rebuild trust and emotional safety - not just during sessions, but in the moments that matter most at home.

Support to explore the underlying dynamics that contributed to the disconnection, with care.

A space for meaningful accountability and healing, whether your hope is to repair and rebuild, or you're still deciding what comes next.

A steady, compassionate presence to help you hold the emotion, navigate the uncertainty, and move at a pace that feels right for both of you.

Flexibility with in person and online sessions, if you need to make showing up for your relationship easier in the middle of a busy life.

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Research shows that 86% of couples who engage in counselling after an affair - and who are both committed to healing - successfully rebuild their relationship. It's not an easy journey, but with the right support, many couples find that it becomes a turning point toward a more honest, connected and resilient partnership.

"We are so grateful to have found you.

Our children still have their parents together because of how you have helped us and we would not have got here on our own.

What you do is invaluable and we cannot thank you enough"

~ Married 20 Years, Multiple Sexual & Emotional Affairs ~