Couples & Marriage Counselling Redlands
Relationship counselling can help you to reconnect again
Are you experiencing any of these?
Feeling alone and emotionally disconnected
Having the same arguments over and over again
Feeling like you can't move on from the hurt of the past
Feeling unsupported, unappreciated and unloved
Struggling to move past the pain of an affair
Feeling like you're not being heard or understood
How Can I Help You with Couples and Marriage Counselling?
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By helping you understand how you get stuck in negative communication cycles and how to break the pattern.
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By helping you to slow down your interactions in conflict, understand how you get triggered and how to move through these situations in a more supportive way.
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By helping you address the underlying issues that cause conflict and disconnection to build a deeper, stronger emotional connection.
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By providing you with a supportive space where you can discuss your concerns in a productive and effective manner to be heard by your partner.
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By offering you a gentle way of recognising and taking responsibility for your emotions and responses to one another to develop a healthier relationship.
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By allowing your feelings to be validated and increasing empathy and trust within your relationship.
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By providing you with the opportunity to end your marriage amicably, with dignity and respect, if this is the decision that has been reached. (If married for less than two years you can attain a counselling certificate required for divorce)
How Do I Work?
The Science of Love: Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Over fifty years ago, with over 3,000 couples, Dr. John Gottman set out to understand love through the lens of science. He measured the behaviour, perception, and physiology of couples over time in his research lab (dubbed the “Love Lab”) at the University of Washington. Using the data collected, he was able to create equations for love and discern the mathematical dynamics of a relationship. Studies using randomised clinical trials have been published in the Journal of Family Therapy and the Journal of Family Psychology endorsing the effectiveness of the Gottman Method. Gottman Method Couples Therapy combines scientific assessment with proven therapies to ensure your needs are fully assessed and a specific treatment plan can be created and tailored to you.
The Goals of Gottman Therapy are specific:
Increase connection and friendship
Build a life of shared meaning together
Help build stronger, happier and more resilient relationships
Address conflict constructively and reduce negative interactions
Is Marriage Counselling Worth It?
This question is usually filled with reservations about the cost, the time and the effort involved - and at the end of the day wondering if all these factors are going to be worth the outcome. Well, there really are no guarantees, but, what I can tell you is what we do know, which is that:
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84% of couples who want to stay together, are willing to do the work and are committed to engaging in counselling sessions, are successful.
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86% of couples who attend therapy for affair recovery successfully repair their marriage.
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69% of problems in relationships are perpetual, ie, they are related to differences in personality, values, etc. Learning how to communicate is key.
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The cost of therapy far outweighs the emotional and financial cost of separation and divorce.
Sessions are available in person for those located in the Redlands, or online for those elsewhere in Australia. The duration of a couples counselling session is up to 60, 90 or 120 minutes, however, 90 minutes is usually required for your initial appointment.
The commitment to marriage counselling is significant,
but there is not much that impacts your quality of life more than the feelings of safety and supportiveness
you get from a loving relationship with your partner.
Not sure if you're ready for marriage counselling? Why not look at getting a scientifically backed assessment on the health of your relationship and at the end receive some resources and tools specific to what your relationship requires that you can get started with implementing straight away to work on strengthening your partnership.