Couples & Marriage Counselling

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Are you experiencing any of these? 

Feeling alone and disconnected from your partner?

Constantly arguing about the same things over and over with no resolution?

Holding on to past hurts that you can't move forward from?

Feeling unsupported by your partner?

Living parallel lives, like two ships passing in the night?

Constantly hurting one another when you argue?

Feeling insecure and jealous about your partner?

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How Can Couples & Marriage Counselling Help?

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Supporting you both to understand how you get stuck in negative communication cycles and how to break the pattern.

Helping you to slow down your interactions in conflict situations so that you can both learn to understand how you both get triggered, how to make sense of what you are feeling and how to move through these situations in a better way whilst supporting yourself and your partner.

Helping you address the underlying issues that cause conflict and disconnection.  Anger is a primary emotion and often used as a form of self-defense and protection.  When you can express your vulnerabilities in safe way, it allows you to connect on a deeper level with your partner.

Providing you with a supportive space where you can discuss your concerns in a more productive way while also being gently challenged to ensure you are getting the most out of your sessions.

Offering you a gentle way of recognising and taking responsibility for your emotions and responses to one another so that you can develop healthier outcomes through new a means of communicating.

 

Allowing your feelings to be heard, validated and responded to which in turn builds empathy and trust so that each partner can move towards answering the question 'are you there for me?' with a resounding yes.

Providing you with the opportunity to end the marriage amicably, with dignity and respect, if this is the decision that has been reached.  (If married for less than two years you can attain a counselling certificate required for divorce)

How Do I Work?

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As a couples and marriage counsellor I have specialised training in relationship counselling, which is different to individual counselling.  My training is in evidence-based Gottman Couples Therapy, developed as a result of over 40 years of research into couples, determining not just what the contributing factors are towards relationship failure but more importantly the principles behind how to create a long lasting, loving and supportive relationship.

 

When considering couples or marriage counselling you might ask, "is couples/marriage counselling worth it?".  This question is usually filled with reservations about the cost involved, the time and the effort and at the end of the day wondering if all these factors are going to be worth the outcome.  Well, there really are no guarantees, but, what I can tell you is what we do know, which is that:

  • Couples who want to stay together, are willing to do the work and are committed to counselling sessions have an 84% chance of success.

  • The average couple waits 6 years after problems start before seeking help for marital problems.  The longer you wait the longer therapy can take as problems become more engrained.

  • 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual, that is, they are related to differences in personality, values, etc.  Learning how to communicate about these problems is key.

  • 12-20 sessions is the average length of treatment, however, this can vary depending on the factors involved such as levels of engagement in therapy, infidelity, trauma, etc.

  • The cost of therapy far outweighs the emotional and financial cost of separation.

Sessions offered are 60 or 90 minutes.  Couples usually find that 60 minutes is not enough time and 90 minutes is often the preferred choice, however, 90 minutes is required for your initial session.  It is usually recommended to start with weekly sessions in the beginning and extend these as you progress but this will be discussed in collaboration with you and your partner to work around your availability and resources. 

 

Private healthcare rebates are available for eligible members and bookings can be requested here.  

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The commitment to couples therapy is significant

but there is not much that impacts your quality of life more than the feelings of safety and supportiveness

you get from a loving relationship with your partner.

TESTIMONIALS

"After not wearing my wedding rings for 9 months I have now put them back on.  I am very happy with the outcome of attending counselling sessions"

"Counselling has given me the strategies to learn how to have a better relationship that means I now feel so much more content and respected both of myself and by my partner."

"I look forward to our conversations now, they have been awesome and I feel like my opinion is respected."

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Counselling can take place in person in Cleveland or online

TESTIMONIALS

"After not wearing my wedding rings for 9 months I have now put them back on.  I am very happy with the outcome of attending counselling sessions"

"Counselling has given me the strategies to learn how to have a better relationship that means I now feel so much more content and respected both of myself and by my partner."

"I look forward to our conversations now, they have been awesome and I feel like my opinion is respected."

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