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“I thought you’d just know…”   Most couples don’t fall apart because of one big moment. It’s usually the quiet, everyday expectations we carry - the ones we never say out loud.   “Why didn’t you help?” “Why didn’t you call?” “Why don’t you care the way I care?”   Expectations are normal. But when they become rigid, unspoken, or unrealistic, they slowly chip away at connection. They create disappointment, resentment, and distance - even in couples who genuinely love each other

The mental load is one of the most common sources of stress and resentment in modern relationships -yet many couples don’t have the language to name it. At Anchoring Your Life Counselling in Brisbane, I see many women and couples who feel overwhelmed by the invisible responsibilities that keep their homes, schedules, and emotional lives running.   This blog explores what the mental load looks like, why it often falls heavily on women, how it affects long-term relationships, a

Resentment doesn’t usually appear overnight. It builds quietly - in the sighs, the rolled eyes, the conversations left unfinished, and the moments where one partner feels unseen or unappreciated. Maybe you’ve caught yourself thinking: “Why do I have to be the one who always puts in the effort?” “They never seem to notice what I do.” “It feels like I’m carrying this relationship alone.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples who come to Anchoring Your Life Cou

It usually starts small. A reminder to take the bins out. A nudge to help with dinner. A gentle, "Can you please call the plumber?" But somehow, the same request ends up on repeat - and what began as a simple ask starts to feel like an ongoing battle. If you've ever found yourself caught in this cycle (whether you're the one asking or the one being asked), you're definitely not alone. It's a dynamic many couples fall into, and while it can feel frustrating or even hopeles

Life will change - whether you’re in a relationship or walking your path alone. New jobs. Health challenges. Kids growing up. Losses....

When someone we love tells us they’re hurt by something we did or said, our first instinct is often to explain, defend, or correct....

Sometimes we carry around a picture in our minds of how life should look - like a polished Instagram reel that plays on a loop. A perfect...

When we talk about lasting love - whether it’s marriage or a long-term partnership - we’re really talking about two key things: trust and...

Parenting doesn’t come with a manual - especially when it comes to navigating the changes that happen as your child grows into a teenager...