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Feeling like you’re not enough? Understanding Feelings of Inadequacy Do you ever find yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough” ? Maybe you compare yourself to friends, colleagues, or even strangers on social media and it feels like your efforts are never enough. You’re not alone. Many women experience these feelings - whether at work, in relationships, or managing day-to-day life. Feeling inadequate can quietly chip away at your confidence, affect relationships and influence

One of the most common things I hear from couples is, “It feels like we’re on opposite sides.” When this happens, even small issues can turn into ongoing conflict, distance, or resentment. At the heart of many relationship struggles isn’t a lack of love - it’s a breakdown in teamwork. Being a team doesn’t mean you never disagree or that one of you gives up your needs for the sake of harmony. It means you approach life, stress and challenges with a shared mindset of “we’re in

Have you ever found yourself in an argument with your partner thinking, “Why are we talking about this again?” or “That happened years ago - why is it coming up now?” This is one of the most common questions I hear in couples counselling in Brisbane and the Redlands, and it can feel confusing, frustrating, and exhausting for both partners. Often, one person feels blindsided by the past being raised again, while the other feels flooded with emotion and unable to let it go. The

“I thought you’d just know…”   Most couples don’t fall apart because of one big moment. It’s usually the quiet, everyday expectations we carry - the ones we never say out loud.   “Why didn’t you help?” “Why didn’t you call?” “Why don’t you care the way I care?”   Expectations are normal. But when they become rigid, unspoken, or unrealistic, they slowly chip away at connection. They create disappointment, resentment, and distance - even in couples who genuinely love each other

The mental load is one of the most common sources of stress and resentment in modern relationships -yet many couples don’t have the language to name it. At Anchoring Your Life Counselling in Brisbane, I see many women and couples who feel overwhelmed by the invisible responsibilities that keep their homes, schedules, and emotional lives running.   This blog explores what the mental load looks like, why it often falls heavily on women, how it affects long-term relationships, a

Resentment doesn’t usually appear overnight. It builds quietly - in the sighs, the rolled eyes, the conversations left unfinished, and the moments where one partner feels unseen or unappreciated. Maybe you’ve caught yourself thinking: “Why do I have to be the one who always puts in the effort?” “They never seem to notice what I do.” “It feels like I’m carrying this relationship alone.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples who come to Anchoring Your Life Cou

It usually starts small. A reminder to take the bins out. A nudge to help with dinner. A gentle, "Can you please call the plumber?" But somehow, the same request ends up on repeat - and what began as a simple ask starts to feel like an ongoing battle. If you've ever found yourself caught in this cycle (whether you're the one asking or the one being asked), you're definitely not alone. It's a dynamic many couples fall into, and while it can feel frustrating or even hopeles

Life will change - whether you’re in a relationship or walking your path alone. New jobs. Health challenges. Kids growing up. Losses....

When someone we love tells us they’re hurt by something we did or said, our first instinct is often to explain, defend, or correct....